Lady Geek

The latest research from the Future Foundation, presented at the Women & Technology seminar in Dec 2007, shows that whilst the frequency of Internet usage of men and women is similar, women & men use the internet for different things in different ways. For example, women are more likely to have uploaded photos, videos or music to a web-site. Women are more likely to have created a personal blog. Women are more likely to have created and updated a personal profile on a social networking site.

According to the Future Foundation, women use a social networking site on average 3 times a week (compared to 3.2 times amongst their male counterpart). Whereas men are more likely to consider “making my opinion heard”, “sharing views” and “displaying personal creativity” key reasons for social networking, women are more likely to use the sites to form communities and listen to the views of other women.

My own experience of Facebook echoes this. At first, I loved it. I discovered that I could get in touch with people that I had lost contact with. I enjoyed adding them to my growing friend list (which made me feel popular) and discover what they were up to. For a while I updated my profile religiously and I imagined that my contacts would be curious about what I was up to.

However, as my friend-list grows I found myself overwhelmed by updates from my modest list of friends. I began to realise that there is a very good reason I do not keep in regular contact with the extended cloud of contacts with whom facebook shares my updates.

The truth is that I’m not that all that curious about their lives and nor are they with mine otherwise we would have never have lost contact in the first place. Most of the ‘status updates’ consist of mundane activities of people I barely know any more. Consequently the more friends I add, the less valuable Facebook becomes.

Cory Doctrow was one of the first to debate the diminishing value of social networking: The more people get involved in a social network, the more users are likely to encounter people they’d rather avoid. And whilst it may be socially awkward to refuse to add someone to your friends list, deleting them from your friend-list is practically a declaration of war.

The problem seems to be that Facebook treats a mundane update like ‘watching TV’ with the same degree of importance as ‘Getting married’. Likewise it cannot distinguish between my closest friends and people I’ve not seen since I was a child but thought it would be fun to add to Facebook.

My own usage of Facebook has declined rapidly after an initial bubble of enthusiasm. I no longer feel a desire to monitor my friends’ updates. The barrage of mostly meaningless email solicitations from 3rd party plug-ins. In Cory’s words, the social network has transformed into something which has “the social graces of a nose-picking, hyperactive six-year-old, standing at the threshold of your attention and chanting, “I know something, I know something, I know something, won’t tell you what it is!”

Obviously the social networks need to find a balance between 3rd party added-value and the proliferating nuisance from third-party extensions. That should be easy enough and a good start, but there is a much bigger problem to solve:

In order to make the networks more appealing to women, companies and brands need to find a way to stay relevant post that initial bubble. I’d like to see a social network which can recognize that not all friends are created equal.